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Tell the people how you feel, not how you should feel

I’m subscribed to PewDiePie. You all better be too.

But seriously, for all the people who love him or hate him for how his product has changed over the years, his videos have got a lot more real over the years, PewDiePie has kind of ascended and we’re getting to know Felix Kjellberg and that is not a bad thing. His latest video at this time is about forced positivity. I thought I might give a take on it and see if you agree or disagree with my take.

I’m talking from the point of view of someone who has masked his emotions for years now. Notice I said “has masked his views” and not “has HAD to mask his views”. In all outright honesty, there should never be a reason to have to hide how you feel. Maybe sometimes you feel you have to because you’re scared of how others will react to how you feel. After all, who doesn’t want to feel accepted as part of the people and why would you let something as trivial as emotion get in the way of that, right? Actually, wrong.

Personally, I’ve run aspects  of my life into the God forsaken ground just because I was too scared to say how I really felt and absolutely, positively, definitely if I had the chance to go back and change my answers, I would. I talk a lot about one particular aspect of social anxiety on this blog and that is being accepted by others. When I talk to them, I give answers I don’t really mean or act like someone else because I want to feel like part of the pack. But it ultimately backfires, wearing that kind of mask doesn’t help you in the long run because that mask will fall off. And when people find out who you truly are, one of two things will happen:

  1. These people are absolute angels and forgive you and are willing to be friends with this new person they have just discovered.
  2. These people will not like the fact that you’ve been lying to them and may be put off from being associated with you and you have broken their trust.

Now, I’m not one to personally throw judgement. I’m ashamed to say that at I do at times, but then again, social anxiety, I make wayward judgements about people all the time and I beat myself up about all the time when I get home. On the other hand, I’ve experienced both options, thankfully. Wouldn’t have any friends at all otherwise.

A key to be able to break that barrier is to realise how you feel is more important than how others feel about you. If you’re happy, don’t let other people make you feel sad, if you’re sad, don’t let other people put you down for it. The balance of emotion is essential to understanding how we live. Whether you want to see it as karma or just random periods of emotional rollercoastery, the important thing is knowing that you are being yourself and it will work out eventually, in every way you want.

So, yeah, laugh if you’re happy. If you’re sad, cry, those tears are OK. God knows how many times I’ve cried, it reminds me I’m human and, despite the dirty rumours, that isn’t a bad thing.

Good night, you potatoes. Enjoy the cocoa.

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Author: HotCocoaAndPotatoSalad

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